When to Turn to a Family Counselor
More often than not, people turn to a family counselor when they feel they can’t overcome personal and relationship issues. In this blog post, you will learn more about how couples determine how healthy their marriage is and what their criteria are for a healthy and effective relationship.
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I am happy so we should be OK; Many partners determine the health of their family by the level of their happiness. However, the source of their happiness might be something outside their family, like their work, hobbies, or social life.
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We are doing everything together; While some people think that “doing everything together” is a typical sign of a healthy marriage, others are not so convinced. You might have a nice house, car, children, and credit cards, and still, not feeling your family as accomplished. Planning outings together per se, for instance, is not enough.
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We are together in good and bad times; Other people believe that the personal happiness is not an indication of a happy marriage. It is how you react to good and bad times. Are you sharing each other thoughts about family tragedies, grief, and other problems?
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We have fun together; Going to social activities and celebrations together is a sign for some of a strong and healthy relationship. Such couples gauge their marital satisfaction on how much fun they experience together.
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Bottom line; While all the things mentioned above are important, to determine how healthy and effective your marriage is, you should sit down and talk for a while. Ask your spouse about his or her thoughts about a healthy relationship. And while there is no perfect marriage, working towards that won’t hurt. That means understanding each other’ behavior and feelings, as well as having open communication with your likes and dislikes.
If you believe that talking with a professional family counselor is better than trying to cope with your issues yourself, turn to Marilyn S Boettiger LCSW. Let me be your trusted and dependable psychologist in solving your problems. I am in Sacramento, CA and reachable at (949) 552-8737.